Do any of these people sound like someone you know?
- A person who goes on a rant after the waitress messed up their lunch order.
- Someone who can’t understand why the bagger at the grocery store put too many items in the same bag.
- Someone who bases their success on the relative success of others.
I’m guessing if you had to rank them on a happiness scale, you’d rank them pretty low, wouldn’t you?
You can just hear these people droning on and on about the injustice/the slight/the betrayal they encountered.
The problem is that these people give a f*uck about too much. They’re choosing to be upset about these otherwise insignificant events.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
Mark Manson talks about topics like the one I just mentioned in his book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. He also talks about how to deal with the stresses of everyday life. The constant barrage of your friend’s perfect lives on social media, and how you don’t live up to that standard. Why failing is OK, and often time necessary. How the pursuit of happiness actually makes you unhappy, and how you should actually pursue the opposite.
I first heard of the book a few months ago while doing some self reflecting. During that time I was questioning if it was me who had a problem when I realized how little I cared about things that got others all riled up. When I heard of this book, I figured it would be worth a read to see if what I’m experiencing is normal.
Turns out it might not be normal, but it is healthy to not be consumed by every little thing. Instead, choosing what to give a f*uck about – rather, choosing to give a f*uck about what’s important to me – is what helps me stay happy.
Look, I could go on and on about this book, but I see how unhappy some people are, and it’s sad to watch. There is a better life out there. If you’re struggling with this at all, pick up a copy of the book. I highly recommend it.