We’re a bunch of quitters, aren’t we?
We all are guilty of it. Whenever our efforts don’t seem to be producing results or significant forward momentum, we quit.
Another way to look at it is to think about what happens when we go on a diet, or create a New Year’s resolution. We’re all in at first. Join a gym, eat healthy, take the stairs instead of the elevator, that sort of thing. It makes sense because we’ve all been told that if we eat right and exercise we’ll lose weight.
We’re just not told how long it will take.
After a week or two, we notice very little weight loss. In some cases, despite doing everything right we might even gain weight.
So why the heck are we going to torture ourselves on a treadmill when we can go back to our old lifestyle?
We start to cheat. That bowl of ice cream won’t hurt. Oh, I can eat chips today, it’s my cheat day.
We find it’s easier (and more enjoyable) to not do the hard stuff. Eventually, we quit on the whole New Year’s resolution altogether.
In fact, a study by U.S. News found that 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by February. That study goes on to say that the reason why those resolutions fail is because we don’t change our mindset first.
…it’s important to recognize that outside-in solutions such as dieting, joining gyms and so on are doomed to fail if, other than your well-intentioned resolve to change, you’ve done nothing to enhance your capacity to either sustain motivation or handle the inevitable stress and discomfort involved in change
Embrace The Suck
There is a Navy Seal, who came up with what he calls the 40% rule. What that rule says is that whenever we think we’ve done all we can do, we’re really only at 40% of our capacity.
Obviously, this isn’t a hard and fast rule. Your 40% might really be 25%, or 50%. The point is that we all have so much more potential inside of us than we ever let out.
When you feel like quitting because you’re not seeing results in whatever you do, keep on going. I used dieting as an example because it’s relatable to a lot of people. This mindset applies to anything you do though.
Fitness, business, relationships, parenting, finances, faith. The list can go on and on.
But the saying isn’t “when the going gets tough, the tough give up”. It’s “when the going gets tough, the tough get going”. Meaning the tough willed amongst us will endure through difficult or tough situations.
Need more proof? Read the story about any one of the Medal of Honor recipients.